Changing the name after getting married is a big decision. When we were children, we often experimented with our crushes’ names.
Now when the situation became more serious, we realize that changing the name isn’t a must. Even though it is common to take your man’s last name, there are many reasons why you should reconsider being traditional.
Why should you take his last name?
1. You don’t like your maiden name
This is a way you can get rid of difficult-to-spell and unpronounceable last name. You can distance from a family reputation as well.
2. It’s a change
Just like marriage itself, a change can be scary. This will be your new identity, as a wife, and maybe as a mother. Always know that this does not make you “you” any less.
3. It bands the family together
When creating a unit, a shared last name will create a sense of family identity. It will also be easier to decide on children’s surnames.
4. Monogramming is easier
For example, if you want your doormat to be imprinted with your family surname, then consider taking a married name.
5. People will address you as Mrs.
According to a study from 2009, 77 percent of Americans believe a woman should take her husbands’ name. Since people will call you that anyway, why not make it official?
Why should you not take your husband’s name?
1. You don’t like his last name
An acceptable excuse for not taking the last name is if it sounds silly with your first name or if it’s just awkward itself.
2. You love your maiden name
If your maiden name sounds exotic or poetic, you shouldn’t change it. Also, it could have a sentimental value.
3. You don’t want to change your professional identity
If you made a successful career with your maiden name, save it at least in the workplace. Plus, you will not need to reprint business cards!
4. You are the last descendant of your family line
You could consider keeping the name if the line would end with you. Also, if your man has an open mind, ask him to take yours.
5. You don’t want to deal with the paperwork
If you don’t feel like getting a new driver’s license, credit cards, and other stuff, then keep your maiden name.